Filmmaker Vaishnavi Sundar discusses her powerful documentary Behind the Looking Glass, which explores the experiences of “trans widows”—women whose husbands transition to living as women. Sundar highlights the widespread nature of this issue, affecting women across different backgrounds, and exposes the emotional abuse, gaslighting, and social isolation many face. She critiques society’s double standards, where male behaviour, traditionally condemned in relationships, is now excused under the guise of gender identity. The discussion also touches on the impact on children, the broader erosion of positive masculinity, and the challenges of distributing a film critical of mainstream gender ideology. Despite the obstacles, Sundar remains committed to giving a voice to these women, urging more open conversations and collective action.

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Tickets For Vaishnavi Sundar's NZ Documentary Tour: “Behind The Looking Glass”

Auckland, 6pm, Tuesday, 1 April

Wellington, 6pm, Thursday, 3 April

Christchurch, 12 noon, Sunday, 6 April

For more information on the film: Lime Soda Films, Youtube

Useful Resources: Trans Widow Voices
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